九、朋友類話題語(yǔ)料庫(kù)

　　During hardships, what do you want most? A source of comfort and strength, a shoulder to lean on, a good advice. Yes, these are the certain things friendship can offer. Also, it provides the unspoken comfort, the good times, shared laughter, and lots more. They boost your self-esteem, provide companionship and even help protect your health and mental well-being.As we all know, it's hard to form the close bonds of friendships, but developing and keeping up friendships is harder. Work demands, family time, school and other factors affect our relationship with friends. But friendships are so important that everyone should take a minute to think about our friends despite the pressure we suffered in our life. There are too many reasons to obtain a sound friendship, here are just a few to list.

　　當(dāng)你遇到困難時(shí)，你最需要的是什么?溫暖和力量的源泉，可以依靠的肩膀，一條不錯(cuò)的建議。是的，這就是友誼可以提供的東西。此外，友誼還能給人以無(wú)言的慰藉，美好的時(shí)光以及歡聲笑語(yǔ)，它可以提高自尊心，提供伙伴，甚至有利于身心健康。眾所周知，建立親密的友誼并非易事，發(fā)展維系友誼更是如此。工作需要、家庭生活以及學(xué)校等因素都會(huì)影響我們和朋友的關(guān)系。但是友誼是如此重要，每個(gè)人都有必要花點(diǎn)時(shí)間想想我們的朋友，雖然我們生活中面臨著這樣或那樣的壓力。我們有太多的理由去維護(hù)一段美好的友誼，這里列出了當(dāng)中的一小部分。

　　Firstly, good friends are good for health. Talking with a friend, going to a ballgame together, chatting while you feel alone, or sharing thoughts can offer simple but powerful ways to connect. The connections of friendship increase your sense of belonging, purpose and self-worth, promoting positive mental health.

　　首先，友誼有益健康。與朋友一起聊聊天，一起參加球賽，孤獨(dú)時(shí)找個(gè)朋友閑聊，或是和朋友分享你的看法，雖簡(jiǎn)單，卻都是和朋友聯(lián)絡(luò)的有效方式。聯(lián)絡(luò)友情可以增強(qiáng)你的歸屬感、決心和自我價(jià)值，有益于心理健康。

　　Similarly, friendships can help you weather the trauma of an unexpected failure, a job loss or the death of a loved one. Your friends may encourage you to change unhealthy lifestyle habits, such as excessive drinking. Or they may urge you to visit your doctor when you feel overly anxious, sad or hopeless. Friends can also share in your good times — a new school, a new favorite, a new house. In the good times, they can celebrate together with you. During the bad times, they can offer comfort and be with you through the tough days. Just knowing that friends are there for you can help you avoid unhealthy reactions to stressful situations.

　　In conclusion, friendships provide a sense of belonging and comfort. Friendships act as a buffer against life's hardships and help you develop resilience. They offer compassion and acceptance. And friendships can make you feel important and needed by giving you a chance to offer someone else comfort and companionship, too.

　　同樣，當(dāng)遭遇始料未及的失敗，丟掉工作或是至親至愛的逝去，友誼可以幫助你走出陰霾。朋友會(huì)鼓勵(lì)你改變不健康的生活習(xí)慣，比如酗酒等;當(dāng)你過(guò)度焦慮、憂傷、絕望時(shí)，朋友會(huì)敦促你看醫(yī)生。朋友也可以同你一起分享快樂(lè)時(shí)光——轉(zhuǎn)到了新學(xué)校、有了新的愛好、搬進(jìn)新家。高興時(shí)，朋友會(huì)同你一起慶祝，憂傷時(shí)，朋友會(huì)安慰你，陪你度過(guò)艱難的時(shí)日。只要知道有朋友伴你左右，面對(duì)壓力時(shí)，你就能更好的合理應(yīng)對(duì)。

　　最后，友誼提供了歸屬感和舒適感。在生活的艱辛中，友誼可以作為緩沖器，幫你應(yīng)對(duì)自如。友誼可以提供同情心和信任。友誼也給予你機(jī)會(huì)給予他人關(guān)懷和陪伴，使你覺得重要和被人需要。

　　2、 Most importantly, make friends and be happy. College friends are often the best in life, because during college you are closer to them physically than to your family. Also, going through independence and adulthood is a natural bonding experience. Pick a few friends and become really close to them – pick the ones who are genuine and sincere to you. Don’t worry about their hobbies, grades, looks, or even personalities. You have developed some real friendships in high school in your last two years, so trust your instinct, and make new friends. You are a genuine and sincere person – anyone would enjoy being your friend, so be confident, outgoing, and pro-active. If you think you like someone, tell her. You have very little to lose. Give people the benefit of the doubt; don’t stereotype and be forgiving. People are not perfect, so as long as they are genuine and sincere, trust them and be good to them. They will give back. This is my secret of success – that I am genuine with people and trust them (unless they do something to lose my trust). Some people tell me that occasionally I would be taken advantage of. They are right, but I can tell you that that loss is nothing compared to what I gained. In my last 18 years leading people, I have realized that only one thing matters – to gain the trust and respect of others, and to do so, you need to trust and respect others first. Whether it is for management, work, or friendship, this is something you should ponder.

　　最重要的是在大學(xué)里你要交一些朋友，快樂(lè)生活。大學(xué)的朋友往往是生命中最好的朋友，因?yàn)樵诖髮W(xué)里你和朋友能夠近距離交往。另外，在一塊兒成長(zhǎng)，一起獨(dú)立，很自然地你們就會(huì)緊緊地系在一起，成為密友。你應(yīng)該挑選一些真誠(chéng)誠(chéng)懇的朋友，跟他們親近，別在乎他們的愛好、成績(jī)、外表甚至性格。你在高中的最后兩年已經(jīng)交到了一些真正的朋友，所以盡可以相信自己的直覺，再交一些新朋友吧。你是一個(gè)真誠(chéng)的人，任何人都會(huì)喜歡跟你做朋友的，所以要自信、外向、主動(dòng)一點(diǎn)，如果你喜歡某人，就告訴她，就算她拒絕了，你也沒有損失什么。以最大的善意去對(duì)人，不要有成見，要寬容。人無(wú)完人，只要他們很真誠(chéng)，就信任他們，對(duì)他們友善。他們將給你相同的回報(bào)，這是我成功的秘密——我以誠(chéng)待人，信任他人(除非他們做了失信于我的事)。有人告訴這樣有時(shí)我會(huì)被占便宜，他們是對(duì)的，但是我可以告訴你：以誠(chéng)待人讓我得到的遠(yuǎn)遠(yuǎn)超過(guò)我失去的。在我做管理的18年里，我學(xué)到一件很重要的事——要想得到他人的信任和尊重，只有先去信任和尊重他人。無(wú)論是管理、工作、交友，這點(diǎn)都值得你參考。(李開復(fù)給女兒的一封信)